My Kryptonite

IMG_3585I think everyone has one person that can just get under their skin.  Mine is ‘Beetlejuice’

‘Beetlejuice’ got his name from my friends who used to say his head was so small for his body and therefore reminded them of beetlejuice in the movie when his head shrinks hahaha

I met Beetlejuice when I was organising a charity cricket match.  My dad had given me the details of a guy that could help me out with a prize.  I had emailed him about a prize and he sorted one out for me.  A few weeks after the event I attended a cricket game at Sussex CC and ‘Beetlejuice’ was there.  My dad and brother were talking to him.  I clocked him but had no idea who he was at the time.  When he left he walked past me and we smiled.  That was it.

My dad said to me after he had left who he was so I felt bad I hadn’t said hi or enquired earlier.

The next day I emailed ‘Beetlejuice’ to say sorry I hadn’t said hello but I hadn’t realised who he was.  We started chatting over email and had exchanged numbers by the end of the day.

We met a up a few times and had a good laugh.  One night whilst on a night out ‘Beetlejuice’ turned up extremely drunk at the club I was at.  He was so drunk he was texting another girl whilst in my company and generally just acting like a jerk.  He denied all of this the next day and tried to say the girl was just a mate.  However a few weeks later he was infact in a relationship with said girl.  Karma served him a little payback though as it turned out she was a lesbian who went out with ‘Beetlejuice’ but then decided she was still a lesbian after all.  Brilliant!

Anyway ‘Beetlejuice’ has always been there really – one of those you cannot get out of your mind.  ‘Beetlejuice’ however knows he has this effect on me though so he plays on this.  He is a typical player a bad boy if you will.  But having decided a long time ago that I really need to not go for this type of guy I have made a breakthrough recently and deleted his number.  It’s taken a while trust me.  But,  if I am not worth his time then in all honesty he is not worth mine.  You cannot make someone into something they are not, I know that only too well and ‘Beetlejuice’ will not be changing his stripes anytime soon.

I think everyone has someone in their life whether they are in it now or in the past that can get to you.  Whether ‘Beetlejuice’ is that one person for me I don’t know.  I hope not as he was/is nothing more than a player with every intention of breaking many hearts along the way.

I am not saying you should always give up on someone but sometimes you just have to accept that you can sometimes fall for the wrong person and you have to know when to walk away with your head held high whilst you still can.

Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice!

Love Brighton Dating Girl x

Plenty of Freaks…Update!

So I thought I should update you all on some of the goings on……

Hammer from my last blog the one I had high hopes for unfortunately turned out to be a little mixed up! De Ja Vu I know.  I did meet up with him to say hi! the weekend before our big date it was meant to be 5 minutes for us just to say hi so the date would be more comfortable.  The 5 minutes actually turned into 5 hours as we got on so well and had such a laugh that I think we both forgot it wasnt actually meant to be a date.  But the following day he texted me to say that he had a hang up and wasn’t sure he wanted to get into a relationship but said he might see me in 6 months at a West Ham game when he sorted his head out.  All I can say is sweetheart, get yourself off the dating website where you state you want a relationship! I’m not there just to boost your ego! Yeah of course i’ll wait 6 months for you to sort out your baggage! NOT!

Other dates have not gone so well either to be honest but I guess it makes for good reading.

I started talking to 2 locals guys ‘Chef’ and ‘Sparky’

Chef was older than me and new to the area so I agreed to go on a date after a few phone calls and various messages.  However, come date day I heard nothing from him.  Time pasted and a week later i got an apology to say his nan had been taken ill and he had had to go home and was sorry but would like to meet up.  He texted me the morning of the newly arranged date to ask me to call him at 5 when i finished work so we could meet up.  I called him at 5 and low and behold no answer,  I tried again 15 minutes later and still no answer so I went home.  Not heard from him since.  I can offer no explaination on this one other than……..no I have nothing!

Sparky was someone than seemed nice and we instantly had a laugh with our messages.  We had pretty much arranged a date within a few days of starting to talk but low and behold on the day of the date he texted me to apologise and say a family matter had arisen that he needed to deal with and could not make the date.  He texted me the next day and we re-arranged for that night.  He explained what had happened the day before and I did believe him.  Anyway yes you guessed it a few hours before meeting I texted him to check he was still ok to meet and he couldn’t same reason as the day before.  At this point I should have told him to jog on but he did seem genuine with his reason so we agreed to try a day date the following day.  I meet a friend for lunch and was due to meet him at 4pm in a local pub and yes you’ve guessed it he cancelled again!!!!!  He said he was sorry and it had been a bad week but still wanted to meet but come on 3 times in 3 days cancelling all 3 times on the day of the date is taking the mick sunshine!

I am seriously considering coming off plenty of fish.  As much as it provides me with the material for my blog the guys are either after one thing only as the message I received today demonstrates.

“Hey I am 28 and living in Hove (by Palmeria Square) you? You up for meeting for casual sex? x

Or they are messed up individuals with a lot of baggage or really into certain fetishs such as scat man.  I know I joined it because I wasn’t meeting people out and about but there has to be a better way? surely!!

Love Brighton Dating Girl x