I haven’t as of yet tried speed dating although I have agreed to try this with a mate in Clapham (She will not do it in Brighton as she thinks there will be a better calibre of men in Clapham) She reads my blog so I can see she may well have a point!
I haven’t yet smiled or said hello to a cute guy in the street. I have seen a few and there is one in particular I like and see quite regular who works in the building opposite me but when I see him I actually resemble my 13 year old self in the playground at school when seeing a crush. I keep going all giggly and shy and I actually cannot even look at him. It is pathetic I know! But I am sure I will get there eventually. After all I know he is single and his name and age from a new app I have joined called Tinder.
I joined Tinder as it was recommended to me. It essentially links to your facebook profile, it pulls through your profile pics, friends in common, and interests. It is a little shallow as you basically swipe left for nope and swipe right for interested. You can only then message each other when both parties have swiped right. I have been on it for 3 weeks and have 84 matches as of this morning. I have taken the bull by the horns with most of them and sent the 1st message to at least 75 of them! It’s a lot I know but even though you might have both swiped right it does not guarantee a response! I have probably had conversations with about 15 of them and I have so far met up with just 2 but it is early days.
I have definitely got a type all 84 have dark hair and have facial hair of some description.
Meeting number 1 was with a guy who I have had 3 dates with now ‘Dev’ seemed very nice and sweet in our conversations and I was actually quite nervous when going to meet him however he was 25 minutes late for the date and although he did call to let me know I was freezing waiting outside the venue whilst he was delayed but warm whilst driving in his car. The date was good although ‘Dev’ was exteremely nervous and as he wasnt drinking his nerves did seem to continue throughout the date. However, there were no sliences and I agreed that I would like to see him again and I have since seen him twice more but if I am honest I do not think there will be a 4th. As much as he is a sweet and lovely guy he is a good inch shorter than me and also quite skinny. This is perhaps the swallow part of me coming out but I like a man to be a man and I fear I would have to protect him should there ever be any trouble whilst we were out. He also does not drink and as much as that is his choice – I think I would worry when out that he was bored whilst I would be drinking and how does a romantic meal for 2 with a bottle of wine work when I’m the only one drinking! Never say never but think I need to be more ruthless when dating these guys and cut my losses sooner rather than later.
Now meeting 2 – What can I say? hmmmmmm I have never in any of my blogs written about any sexual encounters I may have had since dating. Mainly because I am a little picky and also it’s private. I won’t go into details but meeting 2 ‘Winnie’ is probably by far one of the most attractive guys I have ever seen. He is mix between Tom Hardy and Danny Dyer (Ideal combination for me) To be honest when I swiped right with him I was never expecting to get a match never mind actually meeting him. It was quite obvious from our exchanges that this was not going to be a long term thing but there was something about him that literally was making me act all girlie although my mate referred to him as a ‘clit tease’ he sent me some pictures of himself where he was obviously ‘making love’ to the camera. Hard to describe but it obviously worked cause we spoke for a few days before arranging to to meet up.
I have to say apart from the obvious and the reason we met of course (Still no details will be given) I have not laughed that much in a long time than in the 4-5 hours I was with him. He talked a lot about his life and what he wanted to do but was so easy to talk too, he has some brilliant stories and a really good mince and gay voice which did have me in stiches for a lot of the time. The reason for the ‘Winnie’ alias is that he was telling me about a chat up line he has invented centred around Winnie the Pooh.
I am under no illusion that I was probably girl number 7 for that week alone but everyone has there needs I guess and he was definitely worth i t. We have stayed in contact but whether or not there will be a repeat I am not sure but I think I will stay in contact because he really was funny and would be great to have a beer with if only to see him try and use his Winnie the Pooh chat up line on some girls.
Tinder has been an experience so far but a good one and better so far that POF for sure. I am not sure I like the shallow part but I guess you need the attraction so its a good place to start. At least you have to have a mutual like in order to chat so you avoid the messages from those that are not your type and there are no “thanks but no thanks” messages required.
I will endeavour over the next few weeks to speak to the hot guy from the office over the way. Even if its just a Hi! I have a few potential dates on the cards from others on Tinder so I think it will be an interesting few weeks ahead.
Ciao for now.
Brighton Dating Girl x