Catfish Update

So friends I have had a weird day today on the Catfish Saga. I received a message today on facebook from the real person who’s identity was used to create the profile of Lewis and Greg.  It would appear it was the cousin who is infact not really his cousin after all but an ex friend.  It would appear I am not the first person he has done this too and the real person has had girls turning up at his work that have been catfished by this person.

I have helped him out today with what details I have and he has reported it to the police.

I am happy that I know the truth now and can rest easy knowing that I was right to tell the girlfriend so that they could contact me and get the real person who is doing this hopefully a little bit of karma.

Love Brighton dating girl x

Who’s idea was this?

So I have never tried online dating before and as my only opportunity to meet guys tended to be on girls nights out at Oceana in Brighton I needed to try a new approach.  Not that the guys you meet out are not my type but let’s be honest when they have had a few pints who knows if you are really theirs!  What’s the old phrase 10 to 2 bird/bloke (I guess now that’s 10 to 3 or 4) depending on the club.  For those of you not familiar with this phase it basically means the club is getting close to closing so you grab the nearest girl or guy nearest to you just so you can have a kiss.

A few of my friends had experienced the world of online dating and the reviews were to be honest very mixed with various levels of success.  After much persuading from those that had the success I hasten to add,  I decided to take the plunge and signed up to Match.Com and Plenty of Fish.  Match.com is a site you have to pay to sign up too and Plenty of Fish or POF as it is known is a free site.

To be totally honest I was so nervous even just typing in my details.  I am no sales woman and am definitely one that looks at my negatives more than my positives and the whole idea is to sell yourself to attract the right person for you.  Not something that comes natural to most people.

*TIP* Be yourself – you can’t look at what other girls have written about themselves and you just have to be honest about you and what you want from a potential date.  Don’t try to think about what a bloke might want as half the time they don’t know themselves and therefore whatever you write will be appealing to some but not to others.

Anyway with the sign up complete you are faced with the daunting task of flicking through thousands and thousands of profiles.  The best way to describe it is like you flicking through a catalogue to see what takes your fancy.  You really do have to put the time in.  The site’s vary slightly but the concept is the same.   On Match.com you can wink at someone you like to show you are interested and on POF you can click on the Meet Me button.  On both you can send messages.  The one thing I would say is do not get disheartened by non-responses.  This is easier said than done trust me I know but as much as you might take a liking to someone they might not feel the same about you.  You definitely need to develop a little bit of a thick skin when it comes to this part of online dating.

I would also say be prepared there are after all some weird people in this world and some I believe have never spoken to a girl before as some of the messages you can receive are let’s just say funny, scary and damn right out of this world cheesy.  My favourites in terms of first contacts for the pure oh my god are you serious factor are:

“Your breasts make my balls jingle like a coin purse”

and

“Do you like raisins? Cause you raisin this dick”

Needless to say neither of this 2 blokes received a reply from me.

Next time I will tell you about the first few guys I spoke to on the sites and my experience of these contacts.

Until next time……

Love

Brighton Dating Girl x

 

 

 

 

 

And so it begins

And so it begins…..Found myself single in my 30’s after being married to someone that all my friends detested and my family tolerated but infact he turned out to prove them all right by cheating on me at a time when infact I needed him the most.  Such is life and you live and learn as they say.  Or do you?

As you read my blog you will find that I have a type “Dark hair” and a bit of a “Bad boy” yes I know why do us girls do it? Answer is I have no idea!  We all know “Bad boys” are just that and you can’t change them as much as you think you can.  Part of me thinks it’s because at least I guess you know what you are getting.  But through my new found confidence which I will explain how this came about I am trying not to go for my usual type.  Well “Dark hair” is still a must on my check list but the “Bad boy” is the one I am trying to change.  It cannot be that hard to surely find someone decent??

So my blog begins in September 2012 at this point I had been single for 6 months and fair to say had pretty much zero confidence.   It was time for a boost and therefore a good girlie night out which translates into getting Brighton Dating Girl to tash on (Kiss for those that do not watch Geordie Shore) The scene of the attempt Oceana in Brighton’s West Street.  Oceana for those of you that have never had the delight is described as the world in one night – Basically various different themed rooms.  I won’t bore you with the details but it’s a marmite place you either love it or hate it.  I fall firmly in the love it camp.

Anyhow I digress, my friends are on a mission to prove I am attractive and can get a kiss from a good looking bloke and give me the much required boost.  Mainly because I think when you in a relationship that isn’t working you do lose a bit of yourself and are not actually yourself anymore.  You don’t see this yourself but your friends and family do and they all wanted the old confident Brighton Dating Girl back.

After a few hours my friends have located a guy that firmly falls into the “Dark hair” type dancing in the disco room .  We will just call him ‘Essex’ mainly because he was from Essex and looked like a typical Essex lad.  Anyhow given that Brighton Dating Girl has by now sunk a few fat frogs (Blue WKD, Smirnoff Ice & Orange VK in a pint glass) I have a little bit of confidence to go and join my friends and the cute Essex lad.  ‘Essex’ does indeed tick the boxes.  These boxes for me are basically dark hair, cute, funny and good looking (I understand good looking is different to everyone but to me I guess my ideal man in terms of looks and the boxes is someone like Ryan Reynolds or Matt Jarvis)  and although a little younger than me (yes I guess I did fall into the cougar category) After a little bit of dancing not quite dirty dancing style but a bit of ‘Love Shack’ and ‘Five’ I do infact get a kiss from ‘Essex’ infact me and ‘Essex’ end up exchanging numbers and seeing each other a few times over a 3 month period.  ‘Essex’ was indeed just what I needed at that point in my life.  Taking me for dinner, holding the door open for me, speaking to me everyday and treating me like a princess.  That’s what all girls want I guess a little romance in their life.  ‘Essex’ is the the reason for my confidence now and the reason I decided to start internet dating  as although he was a few years younger than me I can hand on heart say that the guy was an absolute gentleman.  It ended because he did at the end of the day live in Essex and was younger and we were at different points in our life.  But we stayed friends and I was always be grateful for the confidence he gave me but also the reason I decided “Bad boys” were no longer the way forward and that good guys do exist you just have to look a little harder.

Love

Brighton Dating Girl x