Taking the Plunge

So after joining Match.com and POF I started to put the work in browsing the catalogues of men that take your fancy.  It really is like that thousands upon thousands of profiles for your viewing pleasure.  It’s hard work but no-one said it was going to be easy.  After a while you start looking for the ones that stand out from the crowd as you are viewing them to tend to notice the same things cropping up again and again. Mainly they all say they would like a girl with tits and ass and younger.  I am not saying the first 2 are an issue for me as I have both but the problem lies in the fact that I have never dated anyone older than me and therefore this does cause an issue.  I am not ruling it out but I tend to find that guys younger than me tend to like similar things to me.

My first 2 encounters were with guys from Match.com we will call them ‘Spanish’ and ‘Marathon’ Now Marathon is maybe an exception to the things above as we actually struck up quite a good friendship and are still friends now.  We quickly realised we weren’t going to be compatible for dating mainly because marathon won’t date anyone above the age of 35 so actually I guess he does fall into one of the categories above.  Anyway as bizarre as it may seem we quickly felt comfortable talking to each other and we would face-time for hours at a time and call each other at stupid times of the day and night and ask each other for advice on dates.  We still talk now and it is a little weird as I thought I had joined Match.com not Friends.com but potentially I guess I may have made a friend for life so might be worth the £70 subscription fee!

Spanish on the other hand is a totally different story.  Spanish is Spanish not that I needed to explain that I guess but he seemed quite sweet.  Had moved to London from Spain to teach and played guitar.  Seemed nice from pictures and from our emails and messages on Match.com.  After a few weeks we exchanged Skype details and this my friends is where it goes a little downhill although in a strange way a story that will make me laugh for years to come.

On Valentines day Spanish asked if we could skype so with my wine in hand we Skyped.  All seemed to be going ok and we were having a nice normal chat he was sitting at a desk on a webcam and I was using Skype on my phone.  Now what happened next is the bit that might make you spit out your drink as trust me that is what happened to the wine that was in mouth at the time.

Out of  blue as if to give me a Valentines treat Spanish pushed back his chair to infact reveal that the whole time we had been talking he was naked from the waist down! He then pointed to his manhood and said “Do you like what you see?”  At this point I spat out my wine and nearly dropped my wine glass and my phone.  I had no repsonse I really wasn’t expecting in and it wasn’t like any of our conversations had been of a sexual nature.  My reply to his question was “Erm I’m sorry but my battery is going to run out, got to go” and then I hung up.

Now Spanish tried to call me back on numerous occasions that night but I couldn’t answer, mainly because what if I answered and he then had no clothes on at all.  He sent me a few pictures as if to entice me to answer his calls but alas I guess I didnt like what I saw and haven’t spoken to him since.

Now girls I would love to tell you that Spanish is the exception to the rule but the facisnation with pictures is definitely a trend that is here to stay I have had various pictures sent to me and various pictures requested.  Some try to put the size of their manhood into perspective for you which is nice of them!  One sent me a picture with his manhood next to a sky remote.  When they ask for the pictures also depends on the guy. Sometimes it’s the first thing they ask sometimes they wait a day or two or a few weeks but the time always comes.  I am not against pictures but think maybe you should meet first as not really going to entice you into wanting to meet someone for a first date.

Love

Brighton Dating Girl x

 

Who’s idea was this?

So I have never tried online dating before and as my only opportunity to meet guys tended to be on girls nights out at Oceana in Brighton I needed to try a new approach.  Not that the guys you meet out are not my type but let’s be honest when they have had a few pints who knows if you are really theirs!  What’s the old phrase 10 to 2 bird/bloke (I guess now that’s 10 to 3 or 4) depending on the club.  For those of you not familiar with this phase it basically means the club is getting close to closing so you grab the nearest girl or guy nearest to you just so you can have a kiss.

A few of my friends had experienced the world of online dating and the reviews were to be honest very mixed with various levels of success.  After much persuading from those that had the success I hasten to add,  I decided to take the plunge and signed up to Match.Com and Plenty of Fish.  Match.com is a site you have to pay to sign up too and Plenty of Fish or POF as it is known is a free site.

To be totally honest I was so nervous even just typing in my details.  I am no sales woman and am definitely one that looks at my negatives more than my positives and the whole idea is to sell yourself to attract the right person for you.  Not something that comes natural to most people.

*TIP* Be yourself – you can’t look at what other girls have written about themselves and you just have to be honest about you and what you want from a potential date.  Don’t try to think about what a bloke might want as half the time they don’t know themselves and therefore whatever you write will be appealing to some but not to others.

Anyway with the sign up complete you are faced with the daunting task of flicking through thousands and thousands of profiles.  The best way to describe it is like you flicking through a catalogue to see what takes your fancy.  You really do have to put the time in.  The site’s vary slightly but the concept is the same.   On Match.com you can wink at someone you like to show you are interested and on POF you can click on the Meet Me button.  On both you can send messages.  The one thing I would say is do not get disheartened by non-responses.  This is easier said than done trust me I know but as much as you might take a liking to someone they might not feel the same about you.  You definitely need to develop a little bit of a thick skin when it comes to this part of online dating.

I would also say be prepared there are after all some weird people in this world and some I believe have never spoken to a girl before as some of the messages you can receive are let’s just say funny, scary and damn right out of this world cheesy.  My favourites in terms of first contacts for the pure oh my god are you serious factor are:

“Your breasts make my balls jingle like a coin purse”

and

“Do you like raisins? Cause you raisin this dick”

Needless to say neither of this 2 blokes received a reply from me.

Next time I will tell you about the first few guys I spoke to on the sites and my experience of these contacts.

Until next time……

Love

Brighton Dating Girl x